“I am looking for someone who enjoys both of us, to have a sympathy, whatever btm wants, provided that I like it too,” Denia explains to us. Everything must be done by consensus, but there must be regard for two things: A) to have agreed on the safe word, it is necessary; without it it is suicide; and B) when the session ends the other person is equal to you off stage.” It’s essential “Make sure you’ve decided in advance on how far you’ll go, both psychologically and physically, in order to keep the other person safe. There are certain btm subs that work 24 hours a day, seven days a week, but this is also well-known. Their relationship may continue, but only if both parties agree to it. There are no ambiguities in the definition of the limits. And, of course, the safety of the places where you’ll be playing is critical, whether it’s in your own home, in the town, or out in the country.”
Antonia jumps into the conversation and agrees: “When it comes to me, trust is the most crucial factor, followed by the use of the safe word. A security word is required to perform any actions in bdsm. The only thing I can tell with certainty is that once you speak the word you have defined from the beginning as the one you will use to end the situation, the other has to stop. Your response might be “no,” “I don’t want to,” or “let me go.” Thus, “there is zero misuse in the circumstance.””
“I absolutely want to discover qualities in the other to appreciate even if the other has the submissive position towards me,” Sophia as a domme says. “First and foremost, to me, it is important to fit in as individuals and then as roles.” In this case, Sophia is depicted as the domme.
Lastly, Dimitris, a self-described sub, will share his thoughts: “It’s one of the most common misunderstandings in the BDS community about what it means to be a submissive, and I’m trying to correct it. A rape in my book is when someone tells you that you cannot say “no,” that you cannot object to them in any way, since you are their slave or subordinate. The misunderstanding of the entire scenario is what I consider rape when anything is done without consent, even after I have said no and the other person persists in doing it or will demand it of me; this may be done psychologically or in any other way than by really saying “no.” As for the “no, no, no, no, no,” I’ve heard people claim that I like telling someone else to do something and then doing it myself, but I’m not sure whether I’d be able to accept it if those folks classified it as abuse. Even if you don’t agree with what the other person is doing, it’s hard to tell if what they’re doing is staged or real. I haven’t done any work in this area yet since I don’t enjoy being abused.” I had to have begged for it, both physically and vocally, in order to accept it.”